100 Days left in 2019!

100 Days left in 2019!  Can you believe it?  Where has the year gone?

2019 has been a year of firsts for me and it isn’t over yet!  I’m contemplating adding streaking to my firsts!  Today seems like the perfect day to start a streak – a 100 day streak.  What to commit to for 100 days is the question…running, journaling, meditation, practicing gratitude, eating cake…these are all good options.  I’d love to hear your suggestions!

The point is the year isn’t over.  100 days is enough time to learn a new language, skill, hobby, sport.  100 days is enough time to start a habit or walk away from a habit.  What will you do for the remaining 100 days of 2019. 

National Working Parents Day

I’m pretty sure National Working Parents Day covers all parents! If you are a parent showing up for your kids, your working!

So Happy Day!

When I was growing up one of my dads favorite sayings was “between midnight and bedtime”. For example “Hey dad, can you take me to a friends house?”, “Sure, I’ll have time for that between midnight and bedtime”. At the time I didn’t get it and responded with impressive eye-rolls. I excel at eye-rolls! When I became a mom I quickly learned the meaning and irony of this statement.

Parenting is a 24 hour shift job. Parenting is the most rewarding job you will ever have, and the most exhausting. As parents we face different situations and challenges. Also, we all face the same situations and challenges. When you peel back the layers we are all raising people we love dearly and want what’s best for them. We also want them to be responsible, resilient, self sufficient happy humans. This is work!

Today I am going to celebrate with an 8 hour shift at my second job, head home to complete the 24 hour shift at my first job of parenting, wifing (not to be confused with WIFIing), and running a household. This is what National Working Parents Day looks like at my house…because we celebrate it everyday! This schedule may look different for you but I bet our priorities are similar: keep everyone alive, pay the bills, stay sane.

The great news here is my schedule has recently opened up and now I have time for fun! This happened because I made small mindset shifts and these small mindset shifts led to big changes one baby step at a time. I shifted how I am working my 24 hour job, how I view my 8 hour job, and I made an addition to my priorities: ME! I started looking at what was important to me and made me happy rather than focusing on outside influences telling me how I should look, how clean my house should be, what my family should be consuming in all areas, what’s appropriate, what’s expected, how everyone else is doing. Hearing these messages for years and not being able to live up to external expectations set by society led me to a place where I was using food for comfort and entertainment. Food was my security blanket and I wrapped myself in 300+ pounds of it.The most impactful change I made was to lower my expectations. It sounds counter productive right? But what I mean is I’m not perfect and I’m happy with that. Perfect isn’t real and to strive for it is an endless quest never to be fulfilled…if I’m going to do that I’m going unicorn or mermaid hunting…at least that sounds fun! If you would like to make some of your own shifts I can help. Schedule a call with me to chat.

I LOVE MONDAY! Today…

2 steps forward…what, were you expecting “1 step back”? Nope, not today!

I’m stepping off the struggle bus and only moving forward…today. And I’m scheduled to do the same tomorrow, and the next day. And if I happen to land back on the struggle bus I’ll ride around town and hop off as soon as I’m able. That usually requires some awareness that I have taken a seat on the struggle bus! I’m better off on the structure bus! I thrive in structure! I don’t want to. I want to be free a spirited nymph like creature that goes with the flow and faces change with grace and a spirit of adventure. This just isn’t me. I am a structured soul that has next years holidays and events planned. This gives me peace. Knowing what to expect would bore the hell out of some. Knowing my personality type helps me accept myself and those around me for who they are and how they navigate this world. Accepting myself is definitely a work in progress. But, I am leaning when I resist my tendencies I resist my true nature and set myself up for anxiety, low self confidence, and unhappiness!

What is your personality type? Are you a free spirit? Or a structured planner? Or have you been living incongruently because you are doing all the things for all the people and you have lost touch with you? I can help you!

Happy Labor Day

Happy Labor Day! Labor Day celebrates the laborer of America. I would like to take a moment to recognize the less celebrated, seen, appreciated hard working women! Whether you are commuting to the office, working from your home office, staying home with your babies, or maybe you are doing D – all of the above! Ladies, I toast you this Labor Day. I see you always on, from sun up to sun down. I see you being the first one up in your house and the last one down. I see you managing the household, multiple schedules, grocery lists, budgets, paperwork…so much paperwork for a paperless world. I see you slaying ALL the details! I see you. I acknowledge you. I appreciate you. I recognize you. I am you.

I feel compelled to switch gears and cut my original post short. As a resident of Florida and Hurricane Dorian currently off the coast I want to encourage everyone to take precaution. I will be hunkering down with my family at the house. We have stocked up the essentials. We have gassed up the vehicles and have all of our pets records handy in case we need to evacuate. If you are in the path please stay alert and safe!